Father's Day is very important to me as the memories of my Dad and me are a big focus of the day. It is also important to me since I am the father of three wonderful children. Dad died with Vascular Dementia and Mom died with Alzheimer's....now me with LBD. Many times since my diagnosis, I have wished that I could talk to them and us share our journeys.
My father was an earthly anchor in my life, just as my Mom was. Dad was the disciplinary one. Ohh, it was not fun when he told me to go outside and select a switch for my spanking. First I selected the switch, then I had to strip the leaves off the switch. I knew that I needed the spanking though. The spanking always took place with love and concern for me. He would always tell me, "I'm doing this because I love you, and it will hurt me more than it hurts you". I never quite agreed with that at the time; however, later in life I realized that it was for my own good. It was a lesson that helped me become a quick learner. I never received that many spankings.
We did not have an abundance of money, but we always had what we needed. We did have unconditional love from both Dad and Mom that was always present. I never witnessed an unkind word between the two of them. They knew the importance of rearing a child in a Godly manner.
On a bit of humor, there was never any alcohol or drugs in the house....they did not drink or do drugs. I remember promising my mother, if she would not make me eat any green beans, I would never drink alcohol. She didn't make me eat the beans, and I have fulfilled my promise to her for all of my 69 years.
In my adult life, my Dad was my best friend. He was there for me through any circumstance of life. Often I went to him in my adult life for council and guidance. He always had a listening heart and ears. His approach was to suggest things to think about in making the decision. He never told me what to do. If I followed my own path and made a bad decision, he never judged me. He would simply offer suggestions for getting back on track.
I have shared these things today because I feel they are so needed in today's world. Fathers are the single most influential person in most families as it comes to statistics of family life. Many single mothers struggle but do an excellent job rearing their children in the absence of a father-figure. My heart goes out to them. I believe one of the many roles of a mother is in nurturing the child. Together, we can achieve the best outcomes. Regardless of the situation and whether or not it is a single parent or a married couple; most are doing the best they can under circumstances.
My hope is that our country will allow God to work in our lives so that families can be united, and teach children love, kindness and respect for others. This foundation will serve each of us well.
Fight like a Tiger --- Be LBD Strong
© June 19, 2016 Robert Bowles
Robert Bowles, Jr.